Bette Ashley

Obituary of Bette J. Ashley

Bette J. Ashley, 95, of Latrobe, passed away Friday, April 24, 2020 in Westmoreland Hospital. She was born June 28, 1924 in Latrobe, a daughter of the late Alex G. and Elizabeth Seabol. Bette had six siblings that preceded her in death: Clara, Helen, Robert, Francis, Raymond, and James. She was the last surviving member of her immediate family. On April 8, 1944, Bette married Wallace H. Ashley, Jr. and over the course of eleven years, gave birth to four children: Connie, Jeanne, Mark, and Jill. Bette and Wally were married for 67 years until his death on May 9, 2011. In addition to her parents, siblings, and her husband, she was preceded in death by her only son, Mark Wallace Ashley on June 4, 2010, son-in-law Ronald M. Lazur Sr. on March 6, 2012, and tragically her grandson and Mark’s only son, Derek Mark Ashley on August 24, 2019. Bette loved to play games, lots of different games, especially card games. She was a life master at bridge, and always the winner at poker, canasta, gin rummy, and pinochle. You name it, she played it, and always emerged victorious. In the early 1940’s, Bette was a highly skilled roller skater, played the piano and organ, and could dance rings around most. Later she became a meticulous tailor, sewing everything from curtains to wedding gowns. An extremely generous person, Bette would often give you her last dollar. Bette also loved to travel and the family spent many vacations together. She loved sports, especially football, NASCAR, and golf. She was a charter member of the Pittsburgh Steelers Fan Club back in the 1970’s. She watched golf tournaments, football games, and NASCAR races religiously. Ironically, she never played a round of golf, threw a football, or exceeded the speed limit! Perhaps most noteworthy was her love for children. There was never a baby born that Bette didn’t want to care for or hold and sing lullabies to. All children, regardless of whether they knew her or not, seemed to gravitate to her. Even children who were meeting her for the first time felt comfortable, sensing her genuine love and kindness. Bette lived a long, full and wonderful life filled with family, friends, love, and joy. She will be deeply missed by many. Left to cherish her memory are her daughters Connie Moore (John) of Gassaway, WV, Jeanne Ashley (Kelly Buchanan) of Pittsburgh, and Jill McCurdy (Ernest) of Derry; grandchildren: Scott Lazur (Michelle), Ronald Lazur (Donna), Brooke Ashley, Faye Ashley, Maggie McCurdy (Jen), and Lauren Scheirer (Dylan); and great grandchildren: Nicholas Lazur, Natalie and Claire Burk, Taylor Payne, and Audrey Stillwagon. Bette is also survived by her husbands only remaining sibling, Shirley B. Stickle of Latrobe, many cousins, nieces, nephews, and a large extended family including Mrs. Norma Batsa of Derry who was an invaluable caregiver. Due to the Covid-19 pandemic. There will be no public visitation or services at this time. After restrictions are lifted, a celebration of Bette’s life will be held at a later date. Memorial contributions may be made to Action for Animals, P.O. Box 814, Latrobe, PA 15650, or online at The Hartman-Graziano Funeral Home, Inc. in Latrobe has been entrusted with the arrangements. To post an online condolence, please visit
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